2008 January 13 « For the Love of Blush, Cake & Romance

My Happy List

January 13, 2008 at 5:40 pm | In Fun 'n Games, Girltalk | Leave a Comment
Tags: Happy, List

I’ve read in so many places that it’s so good for a person to take the time out to create their own personal “Happy List”. This way in down times or whenever a pick up is needed, there’s an automatic remedy or atleast a light at the end of the tunnel. I decided to write mine last year with my best friend because we were getting so bored and running out of ideas. So each of us went home and started on our lists. It was crazy how much of our list was almost identical. What also amazed us were all the things that we could be doing to make ourselves happy that we completely skipped our minds. Ever since then, I keep it in a safe place on my laptop for quick reference. And without fail, it makes me smile every time.

Buying a magazine
Buying a good novel – especially the girly ones about girls like me “making it”
Getting a massage
Going to a nice restaurant
Going to an exhibition
Taking a vacation (even if its in the country)
Having a set schedule for my day (knowing what’s going to happen. I love being busy but knowing what I will be busy with).
Enjoying the luxury life for a day (like in a hotel with a nice warm bath & fluffy bed)
Having a “city day” – I love city life but its hard to have in Beirut but maybe we could enjoy Downtown or Verdun during the day and hit the night scene together at night.
Enjoying the sea on a beautiful day (even if its just watching it)
Having a coffee with a friend and talking about nonsense that has nothing to do with ourselves.
Going out with a group of friends anywhere (dinner, clubbing, coffee).
Playing Monopoly
Playing Pictionary
Doing an outdoor activity that could be fun like playing beach volleyball
Feeling pretty – when I get a nice outfit and having somewhere to wear it.
Taking a bath
Candles
Dancing
Good music
Beauty products
Having a “Beauty Day”
Going on an actual date – romantic dinner and all
Simple jewelry
Chatting with my best friends
Going to an interesting seminar (learning something new & meeting new people)
Pastel colors
Shades of blue
Arriving at the airport
London – anything that has to do with London
Helping someone who isn’t fortunate
Having a good laugh
Living my age once in a while – I would love a day where I don’t give a shit about anything but what I’m doing. Like going to a popular beach, dancing and drinking and having a good time.
Sour candy
Watching a funny or romantic comedy.
Going on a spending spree (when I have the money to do it).
Watching a good TV series
Learning something new (taking a course or being taught)
Trying something new (anything)
Going to a mall and just walking around
Having an anniversary to look forward to each month
Joining a dance class – I always wanted to be a dancer when I was younger (so at least I could try a course for the fun of it. Types: fun stuff like hip hop or Caracalla or jazz).
GAMBLING
Playing Boggle
Reading a good Self Help Book
A good cup of tea (with honey & milk)
The number “26” or split separately “2” & “6”
Even numbers
Playing computer games (strategy games) where you have to build something, help it grow and maintain so it succeeds.
Rollerblading or rollerskating (I have my blades in Baakline).
Being a part of an Association (if there are any other than Lions and Masons). – But I’m not sure if that would make me happy.
Buying people gifts and surprising them
Lighting up a cigarette – oooooooooooh how I miss it.
Looking forward to something … anything. I love having something to look forward to.

The Grass isn’t Greener on the Other Side

January 13, 2008 at 9:45 am | In Dear Diary | Leave a Comment

Food for Thought:

How many times do we sit there wishing we were somewhere else or in someone else’s shoes? If only I were richer, if only I were prettier, if only I were smarter, if only I lived in the USA, if only I were a celebrity or supermodel. What’s ur fancy? It’s amazing how engrained the saying “the grass is greener…” has become in our psyche that it has become a goal to be reached for most of us. What are we trying to reach though? In a nutshell, my theory is that all we really enjoy once we reach these wants is temporary happiness due to the novelty of it all. Everyone needs change in their lives. But once you get that change and you enjoy it for a few days, a few weeks or a few months, it gets old and there we go back on our search for happiness. There is no absolute answer to happiness except for those who are content with their lives and those who live their lives in moderation. Everyone has their own problems and every situation has its pros and cons. Think for a second about these opposite terms and what may be the pros & cons of each. Heavy vs. Thin, Cute vs. Sexy, Close to home vs. Away from home, Manager vs. Lower position, Travels alot vs. Stuck in one place, Lives in the Big city vs. Lives in a regular suburb. If you think objectively, you will see that each comes with the good and the bad. It is up for us to make do with that.

More importantly, you have to do these things for you. Because if you’re waiting for people’s reactions… then you will get them but it will be more like your “15 minutes of fame” rather than a permanent fix. I went through some really bad ups and downs trying to live my life for the future (or live my life dreaming of what it would be like to get to the other side). It’s finally when I gave up and accepted myself for who I was and accepted my situation (or environment) for what it was that I really started to enjoy my life. Now I have so many things to look forward to that don’t have to do with self improvement. What a relief!