Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?! True or FalseJune 14, 2008 at 5:29 pm | Posted in Love & Marriage | 5 Comments
Tags: cheating, Dr. Phil, marriage, tv shows
I was watching the update interview with the girl who admitted to cheating on her husband on “The Moment of Truth,” and she said that her and her husband were still together trying to work it through. But I can’t help but wonder what there is to work through. I mean she cheated on him, she claimed that she should be married to her exboyfriend, she threw everything out the window for a quick buck on the show and HE HUGS HER AT THE END!!
Yes this is an extreme case but if you really look around, you will see cheating has become a widespread thing. Not just among guys but also women. I personally don’t understand how people can cheat on those that they love. It’s not even something that even crosses my mind. But then again I have not been married yet and haven’t put in the time. But still, I am 100% sure I would never consider it because I like stability and once I’m stuck on something, that’s it. I’m not really one for change or added excitement. And I’ve surely never been one for the hunt. More importantly, I think it’s all about principle and faith. What’s wrong is wrong and that’s the end of that. That’s my viewpoint but I’m not one to judge others.
The questions that always seem to come up in conversations amongst friends and can be watched over and over on TV shows are:
“should you give your spouse / lover another shot if he or she cheats on you”?
“If someone cheated on you once before, what guarantees you that they won’t do it again”?
“what would you do if you had kids and you find out that your spouse is cheating on you? Leave or Stay”?
Honestly I don’t think I can tolerate a cheating spouse because it would create too much distrust even if they swore never to do it again plus it would hurt like hell. If I had children, I’m not exactly sure what I would do but based on what I have seen, sacrificing for the kids and staying affects the kids just the same because they see the parents’ discomfort. The only case for me in which I believe that forgiveness may be possible is if the spouse has given multiple requests to their spouse and has made it clear that their needs are not being fulfilled whether they are physical, emotional or mental. In this case, it’s the fault of both.
But in the case of half of those people that go on Dr. Phil, Jerry Springer and Moment of Truth, HELL NO.